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What to Do If You Have a Dangerous Obsession

Monday, January 23, 2012 -- 5:00 AM

After taping today's show, Dr. Mike Dow, Behavioral Expert and Author of "The Diet Rehab," shares the first thee steps to take if you notice an obsession or compulsion that is becoming a problem…

Step 1: Come Clean.
Tell someone about your problem. Admitting that you have a problem is often the first step. If it’s going to a 12-step meeting, talking to a therapist, telling your significant other or telling a trusting friend, that will help you take the next step.

Dr. Dow says, “You’re as sick as your secrets.”


Step 2: Find Someone to Support You
Finding someone who can support you is essential for treating any sort of compulsion or addiction.


Step 3: Ask Yourself...
Ask yourself, “What is it that I really need in my life that I am not getting?” All of the people who have additions or compulsions that I have treated, it’s never shopping, never food — it is over companionship, a sense of love, a sense of purpose in the work.

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Cut Up Credit Cards
Most compulsive shoppers find their shopping to be a problem because their habits are putting them into debt. A great way to end the impulse buying is by cutting up credit cards. When shoppers have to use actual money that is draining from their checking account almost immediately, they are less likely to spend money.


Keep a Daily Log
Dr. Dow suggests that compulsive shoppers record each and every item they buy. Most shoppers aren’t aware of just how much they’re spending. While Dana believes she spends about $50,000 per year on shopping, her husband says it is truthfully 2 or 3 times more than that. By keeping a daily log, shoppers will become aware of just how much money they’re draining away. Being conscious of concrete numbers is an incentive to cut back.


Find a New Hobby
Some obsessive shoppers shop because it is their form of relief, or because they are bored. Dr. Dow suggests finding another hobby or activity that releases the same sense of relief or stimulation that shopping offers. Start volunteering at a soup kitchen, or join a local sports team or book club. Not only will this keep you preoccupied during the time you might otherwise spend shopping, it will also help fulfill the emotional needs otherwise fulfilled by shopping.